Japanese Beautiful Model - Should I stay with him?

Should I stay with him?

I've been with this guy for almost a year, its been 11 months. I'm 16 btw. the first 2 months were fantastic. but then things got a bit edgy, because of previous relationships i find it hard to completely trust someone, and same for him. I never got on with his family, his mum and dad ignore me, his sister I really hate, as she keeps saying really mean lies about me to his parents and his older siblings are so rude that they ignore the fact im in the room, but yet ive never done anything to upset any of them. He then started to change a bit and we argued almost every day over really stupid things, then he started saying that he wanted different things for the future than me. ( I want to go to university and study beauty and fashion, then hopefully move to America and work over there and do Glamour Modelling aswel as beauty.) But he's a little unsuportive until now where hes saying yeah i'll try and be there (again im unsure that he will) he dosent have any life goals that i know of as of yet, before he met me didn't have any, until i pointed out that he needs to do well in school etc, although he hasn't. He dosen't talk to me about his feelings or problems either, he expects me to just know. We don't have the same interests, and although we've taken a break from seeing eachother for a month (we still text and talk on the phone) im still unsure wether this relationship is worth it. Yes i do have feelings for him, but when we were together almost everyday we did argue over really stupid things, he'd shout at me until i cried and then he'd stop, its always until i cry, as soon as i cry he calms down. also when we are both with my family he's almost perfect, but when we are together alone he's different in a bad way. (sorry this is so long) he's also been abusive to my pets, which has affected me in such a way, i find it difficult to leave the room and leave him alone with my pets for even just 5-10 minutes. I want more than anything to move to america and pursue my dreams, but its wether he will make it difficult and possibly prevent me from doing so? My parents also are booking a family holiday to America- florida, but just me, my mum and dad (i have no siblings), my boyfriend not included. I aint really complaining though because i dont think i really want him to come atm. our time part now, we hardly speak much but he has been quite lovely to me, which has mademe think should i honestly stay with him? Reading all of your answer's got me kinda happier, and more excited about starting new without him, thing is when i 'caught' him when he grabbed my dog and hit him, i screamed at him to get out, he cried and said he didnt do it ... but then he started turning it back on me saying do you really beleive i did that, i cant beleive you would accuse me of this etc. weve had some good times in the past, bu things then changed i dnt know why :/ so maybe this is the real him... the holiday is year after next for 3 weeks, so if we were still together by then he wont stay with me because i'd be in a different country for 3 weeks without him.. but i really want one last family holiday. who knows i may meet someone over there..which is what my dad has always said he wants me to do sinc i was quite young lol! most of you have asked why i havent left him, aswer to that is bcause my i dont know what its like to have a 'amazing, romantic' relationship people talk about. my parents argue all the time, have been together since young, and my dad has hurt my mum in so many ways and also not really nice to my pets either, but my mum stays with him :/ so i have no idea what its like to have a decent relationship, never had one and feel as though i never will :/

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If you are doubting his way of doing or his personality wise, or not respecting the way you should have, then it would be wise or better to separate.
No, your relationship seems to have run its course in a short time, and it doesn't sound like a healthy one anyway, with him making you cry (sounds like more about him wanting to control you) so I suggest you go on the family holiday with your parents, which will please them as it'll probably be the last time you do this together, and forget about your BF for a while. When you get back, see what you think about him then. You may find he's moved on by then, and you'll certainly see things more clearly then. Good luck.
you have to make mature decision to put your life in order.
dump his sorry ass
No! Don't stay with him!
Maybe you shouldn't keep in contact as much as you are at the moment, only this way will you realise how much you miss each other or not. If you don't miss each other then finish it now and concentrate on your studies so you have a better chance of going to america and following ur dream!!! where as if you do miss each other give it another chance and see how it goes although if nothing changes then it might be time to call it quits hope it works out for you,, if not don't worry, i'm sure you will find someone soon who will be perfect for you
he abuses your pets?? That is a huge indicator of becoming violent towards people. He sounds like a bad person who doesn't really have much compatibility with you. I think you should forget him now, instead of prolonging the inevitable heartbreak later on.
Why doubt?
When you started arguing "every day" it was time to end the relationship. We date people to find out if we are eventually compatible enough to go the distance. Sometimes things work out, most often they don't. Of course you will always have 'feelings' for this guy, but you already know that it's time to move on. Don't waste another minute. You will fall in love again but first you have to give yourself time to heal. So pay attention to your school work this year so you can get into a great college and set yourself up for a great career. Hang out with friends, enjoy being a teen, have fun! No more boy drama! WAIT... he ABUSES your pets??? Are you NUTS!! What the heck!! Kick this idiot to the curb!!! Are you going to be ok when he abuses your kids too??? You should have given him his walking papers the first time he hurt one of your animals. Stop being such a foolish little girl! Be a woman and stand up for yourself!!!!! I don't care how "lovely" he is to you now. He's a LOSER with a capital L planted on his forehead. I just want to slap you!!!!
get rid of him, if he's cruel to animals then theres no way u should b with him
The relationship is over hun. You don't want a boyfriend that do not support you in anything and his family don't like you.. That just jealousy so hun finish school an make your dreams come true other boys will cum..
as long as he is abusive to your pets, you must drop him. Only psychopath, mean spirited people are cruel to animals. You should get some other guys.
I think you should move on. I see red flags: he won't end an argument until you cry, he's abusive to your pets, and he treats you different around people than when you're alone. Abuse escalates over time. How long until it's more than words to make you cry? Do you want children some day? Will you be afraid to leave the kids alone with him like you can't leave your pets? I know it's hard when you have feeling for someone, but there is someone out there who will support your dreams and treat you with love and respect.
I think u should have a proper break u know a week without textin talkin or seeing eachother then u will know how u really feel. Ur only 16 an there are plenty more fish in the sea. Goodluck
Hi' First of all you are 16, you have your whole life in front of you and you must follow your dream's. Think what your future holds for you if you stay with this moron and his family, you don't need them, move on and be happy, you will meet someone who will love you for the person you are. You dont want to be sat on a park bench in 50 year's time wishing you had done thing's differently. I hope this was of help.
YOU KNOW WHAT?? I THINK YOU ARE STUPID!!!! how can you let him being abusive on your pets!!! and if you wrote this, it means that you caught him in action and you didnt leave him! yet? are u still "dating" him????what are you waiting for! i could go on and tell u how dumb u are, especially because you let him abuse of your pets, but still, are u blind? definitely leave him and before you do so, please give him a kick his balls!
stay away for good. look at your mother is that the kind of life you want. people who are bad to animals are bad to children. do not have children with him. stay by your self for a bit. you do have to not be with a man all the time to be happy. are you to back to school. think whats best for you