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Why does my best friend disrespect me?

Hey. Im Maz, and my best friends Louison. We went to primary school together and yeah, we hated each other until we were in year 6. Then it all changed, she asked me to sit next to her in class, so I did. I think at first she was trying to have a laugh, because she was the popular one and I was the boffin who always had her head in a book. But then we started going Round each others, having sleepovers, we were bet friends. Even though she was popular, she was abit on the chubby side (but still goregeous). But at the end of year 6 everything changed. We were going to different high schools. She was going to the rough school with the rubbish teachers, and I was going to the strict school, with the really good teachers. nobody from my school went to my high school. They all went to Louisons, Not because of Louison, It just happened to be there choice. But my dad wremaininging firm, saying I must go to the better school. Im not angry that I went to st nicholas' (my current school). Im happy that I went to a better school. I made friends and Yeah, I wasn't the most popular girl, but Does it matter in life to be popular? But iot was the opposite with Louison. She was queen bee, And you know how big it is to be the most popular girl in year at high school. I know most of her new 'friends' are just using her for popularity, but whenever I try and tell her, she has a go at me. I know im overprotective but I don't want louison to do anything to stupid (trust me, shes the sort of person who would). Her new friends always gossip about me, they call me a dork and ask louison why she was ever friends with me. (My other friend tells me this(and yes, she not stirring, I can trust her)) The worst part is she doesent say to them, Don't be so mean, shes my best mate. She gossips back and says, yeah I know, shes a major dork. Okay, so I lowittinging music and reading books, not slagging off every girl in the year, SO WHAT?. Im not as confident as her, but every time I confront her about stuff like this, she has a go at me, and some how, I always end up saying sorry. Recently shes been asking me Are you going to tramps? She always goes to tramps under 18 night and expects me to go with her. I don't want to. I wanna go with somebody who'll look after me, Like my older sister. My mums died, so I often go to her mum with alot of problemsems. But this is something i cant tell her. I mean its like somebody going up to you and saying your daughters a ****There's also been a lot of talk of what we wanna be when we're older. My passions with singing, but Louison likes doing that too. She loves outshining me. If I start singing she'll overpower me with her shouting voice. its annoying. So I wanna be a singer but then As a joke I suggested glamour modelling for Louison, and she took it seriously, so Now louison looks up to people like katie price. She also Keeps saying to me stuff like, You need to stop listening to your disney **** (demi Lovato, JB, stuff like that) and listen to 'real music' she puts on a dizzee rascal CD. She also told me to stop being such a baby. But the worst thing shes ever done to me, Is say to me, Iwouldn'tt' care if my mum dropped down dead. She probablydidn'tt intentionally mean it, But how the hell can you say that tosomebodiess face, when You know that there mum has died. I justdon'tt know what to do anymore, I hate her so much, Butthere'ss something which is making me wanna be her friend, Idon'tt know whether its the connection Ive got with her family. Her mum and ad are split but when we went to her dads, me and her step mum got talking and she was telling me how louisons other friends are rude and mean and impoliete. You might have guessed by her name that shes full french? Her mum is from france and so's her dad, She speaks absoloutley impecable french, and herstep mumm is full german so shes also quite good at german, Yet shedoesn'tt want to take them as aGCSEE, Louisons a bright girl, But she just pretends shes not because apparently its 'uncool' to be smart. Shes in bottom set for everything. It infuriates me, Whatever I tell her goes in one ear and out the other. I dont care if nobody answers, I just had to write this, let it out and ask one last thing, Has anybody else had/got a friend like this and if so, How did you tell them. Much appreciated. Thank You!

Public Comments

1. your friend disrespects you because you type a question as long as a book.
2. I didn't remain friends or become friends with people like this and I realized that you have to pick and choose your friends. The friends you have during childhood and in high school are often not your friends other than friends by association and that's not what it takes to be a friend and have a friend.Friends do not put each other down. They are supportive of each other and accepting of each other. They don't think they are better.Friends bring out the best in you. They enhance our existence. No matter what the differences may be it doesn't change friendship. It's unconditional. I'd say she is a bit domineering and maybe not a true friend. You can be acquaintances for a long time with someone and never truly be real friends. Friendship is something to be mastered if your going to succeed in that department.
3. thats a way long question. I have sort of been in the same situation, slightly, well I moved four years ago to an independen/private (fee-paying) school at 11, which is and was then one of the best girls schools in the UK. However, moving from a state school (government) it was quite a culture shock. I didn't know anybody but with just being friendly and genuine its not hard to make friends. I had a lot of friends from my last school though, at the time we all said that we would talk to each other lots and keep up the friendship. But in reality that really didn't happen. And I eventually grew apart from all of those people. One friend, Matt who was at a state secondary (high) school, didn't get on with one of my friends from my current school at all and they constantly slag each other off. Its infuriating. The thing with matt is that we always seemed to have to same conversations/arguments about all of my friends who are considerably more affluent than him and I, and how going to a fee-paying school made me one of them - a snob. When really my friends, with or without their inherited money are the same lovely lovely people. He also didn't understand about the commitments that I had, I am very passionate about music, violin is my life, no seriously I love it, and that at my school the time you put into your work is very important if you want to achieve anything. To sum it all up, we now have completely grown apart, another way of saying we don't speak, but its just the way it is. He didn't try to understand my friends, and listen to their situations, he just had a very narrow-minded pre-conceived idea about fee-paying schools, which whatever I said didn't change. So maybe, just gradually cutting ties with this girl is the best way forward. Just because she is disrespecting you now, does not mean that in a few years time, once she has had some time to grow up, it'll be the same. I think the best thing to do, is forget this girl at the moment, focus on the bigger picture and your life. If, in a few years time or a few months, she has grown up, then maybe you could resume your friendship and she will apologise for her mistakes. Thats the positive, but quit stressing over her and then if she never features in your life anymore and she doesn't grow up then it's not the end of the world. Spend the time you spend concerning yourself over her life, on you and your new friends. Best of Luck x
4. she's the dork here.she's not a real friend and I think u should leave her alone and let her go with her popular friends. you said there's something wich is making u wanna be her friend, but think how many bad things she did to you, she's fake, and unsensitive.Tell her that she's not a real friend, and u won't be her friend anymore if she direspects you this way.good luck!!!