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lying dishonest long term boyfriend....what do i do?

Hi I have been living with my bf since i was 16 (4 years now), he is 7 years older than me, and the past year i have started freelance modelling - glamour, lingerie, promo etc - paid and non paid etc... i have been offered opportunities to shoot in spain, st tropez and amerca, i turned down spain last year coz he didnt want me to go, and this year i have been offered america, just a week, and st tropez too.... these are opportunities of a lifetime and i would love to go on them but my bf is givin me an ultimatum - if i go on the trips then he is saying he will finish with me.... he has cheated on me in the past and stupidly i took him back... but he just seems to of been getting worse, and i have just found out he is talking to other girls online again, and paying for thses camshow things,... he obviously lies about it all and claims hes not, hes really nasty sometimes and says im a shit girlfriend, or accuses me of things just because i model... i know hes got loads of new womans numbers on his mobile who hes met online and texts and calls them all the time, yet he goes off his head if im talking to Photographers to arrange bookings!!....i just dont know what to do anymire... i suspect he is cheating on me or planning it... he makes me feel like im in the wrong for wanting to go abroad without him for a week.. but its my modelling career...he makes me feel like im a cheater or that im the one in the wrong... there is no reasoning with him,... he just talks/shouts over me, accuses me of stuff and repeats himself over n over n over.. and if i ignore him then he has throttled me by the neck before or pulled my hair and called me names, then says he is sorry after. just dont know what to do for the best anymore.

Public Comments

1. The opportunities you are getting now are ones that many women dream of. If he is going to hold you back from your dreams, walk away. He should be there encouraging you to do these things if they are what you really want to do. As far as him checking out the cam shows and other women, that is a sure sign that he is just with you to be with you. If you are going to be with a guy, be with one that adores you and will be your everything and support you in the career you choose.