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WHAT is my MUM'S problem??

i moved back home when i broke with my fella i am 28. It is only for short time till i get somewhere, but my mum makes my life hell.I am a model, my mum 'used' to be, and i have alot of clothes.she fights with me and tries to make me dress frumpy when going out.i do it 4 a quiet life. she keeps the family car from me-we are all insured for it, and my brother drives it, but she creates reasons i can't and i am confined to home for hours. she calls me cruel things for no reason, 'slut' etc, and constantly puts me down, esp in front of dad.everywhere i go, even bathroom she follows me to c what i am doing, and steals cosmetics i have. she always points out my bad points. she starves herself, and leaves fatty foods around for me to eat.and puts fotos of hereself (glamour) ones up. i am moving out soon, but WHAT is wrong with her???

Public Comments

1. She appears to be jealous and have some other emotional problems going on. You need to get out now. By the way you are 28 and the family car is not yours to drive.
2. maybe she's jelous at you. I hope not.
3. she is gettin older and cant stand that you look better than her .
4. It sounds like she's envious of you, but that doesn't make any sense. Have you tried talking to her? Sounds like she may need some counseling or something. Sorry to hear that hope you make it work until you move out. For now I think you should just stay cool and try to ignore her it sounds like she has allot of issues that she needs to resolve. We can't control others only ourselves so its up to you how you let her affect your life. You sound like you have allot of things going for you so stay positive.
5. She's probably in her 50's, am I right? She must be approaching menopause, and this may be a symptom. The fact that she puts you down in front of your dad and is doing extreme dieting while telling you to eat fatty things and calling you fat means that she is insecure. You are younger and probably skinnier than she is, and she resents you for it. She's trying to make herself look better in the eyes of your father, too, and by putting up the photos she is both reminding you of her alpha-status as a model AND reminding your dad of how she used to be. The other things are either part of her insecurity or her resentment of your modeling abilities. Talk to her and say that it really hurts you. Tell her that she is still beautiful and that her weight isn't something she needs to worry about. Tell her that when she calls you names and points out bad things about you, it makes you feel angry, frustrated, and put-down. Explain that you are moving out soon, and that you don't want to leave your relationship on a sour note when you do. Tell her that you want to be her friend, not her enemy, and ask her to please stop restricting you and putting you down. Give her a hug and compliment her on her clothing choice. Secretly tell your dad to constantly compliment her on her outfits, hair, etc., and tell him about the conversation you had with your mom. He will probably understand and agree to compliment your mother. Over time, her insecurity will vanish with constant compliments, smiles, and small gestures of friendship and kindness.