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Am I wrong for being sexually attracted to a 16 year old I met at the gym when I'm 23?

READ before you comment PLEASE or don't comment at all!!I I asked this earlier, but I changed alot of things I said to make it sound more understandable, I got 50 answers that all were rude and nobody read my description. Please be open when answering this I go to the gym from 10-11(closes at 11:30) usually 6-7 days a week. I love training and have been doing so for years. Its just the community center which has a gym, pool and all that. For the past month and bit a new guy has been training there. The very first time I saw him I couldn't really keep my eyes off him, probably the most attractive guy I've seen, I thought he was a model or something.(don't want to sound obsessive LOL). Anyways this guy is super muscular and nobody else in the gym really compares to him as muscularity and physique goes(there's usually 20-30 people at the gym working out). He's about 5'9 210lbs. He goes every night the same time I go, and he started talking to me the second day I saw him.(I NEVER thought he would, I'm not the most confident person about my looks;so I was surprised) Very friendly nice guy, he talks to alot of people in the gym but I'm the only girl he talks to. Just small talk, always smiles at me and is just a sweet guy. The whole time I've known him I thought he was between 22-30 years old, the way he looks and the way he acts/talks. So after a week, we'll often do exercises together, stretching, etc and just chat at the same time. We go into the hot tub after every work out, we started flirting a bit and we sort of touched toes a few times in the water.. we have a lot in common and reminds me exactly of ME (but a guy version). I just randomly asked what he was doing on the weekend yesterday, just was curious, and he said he has dinner plans with his older brother and his fiance on Saturday Night but Friday nothing, and then he asked me if I'd be interested in coming over and said he could show me his apartment, we could order some Chinese food,and then cuddle up and watch a movie together. Of course after a month and a bit I said I've love to!I was so excited! Then he ads in a sort of serious way" I should tell you this now, but I'm not how old you probably think I am, I'm 16 turning 17 next month, I hope thats okay and I just want to tell you now so I don't end up hurting you later on if I kept it a secret, so I hope that doesn't change anything! I was shocked, I couldn't believe this I've NEVER been attracted to a young teen before. But My response by instinct was (after I got to know him and knew he was a genuine guy) thats totally cool, age is just a number. He says he's got a lot of stories for me and also how he rents out his own apartment, which I'm fairly curious about. -My question is, even if I'm 23 and he's turning 17 next month, would society look down on this if a relationship ever started between us(Which I can see happening) He has his own apartment (I know the apartments and they are quite nice) and finishes work right at 10:45 and makes it to the gym by 11. I'm very sure he does take steroids, its pretty visible but he's a good hearted person and I could tell, so I'm okay with it as long as he knows what he's doing. After him telling me his real age I felt like I could completely trust him and it caused me to become more intrigued to him and became that much more interested.-Just because we're hanging out on friday night cuddling watching a movie, doesn't mean we're GOING to have sex yet, but of course its a possibility. I feel good when I'm able to hug someone who actually cares about me, I sort of have a self esteem problem.(its low) I can very well see us "getting together" very soon, and I honestly hope for it. I've never had a guy this attractive and caring to be interested in ,me. The closest we've probably gotten is after about 2 weeks of knowing each other we started going in the hot tub after working, he sat between my legs sort of below me and I played with his hair and just gave him a head and neck massage lol, but mostly we just chat. I guess we're just showing ways we like eachother? Nothing sexual has happened yet. And We're in Canada, the age down here is SIXTEEN. So It wouldn't be illegal

Public Comments

1. you have serious issues. Looking at your profile picture and your goofy looking face, you will have a lot of fun in prison =). You sort of look like a pedophile as well
2. Love knows no age. It's right if it feels all right.
3. ur not weird at all, only society pushes morals on individuals, evolutionary u r right as rain for liking a young build handsome guy. it makes sense besides look at all this Twilight BS in the media, its got middle aged women all hot for underage tween boys!! i think anyone callling u a freak is a hypocrite. that said, i mean the law is the law bla h blah..but NO you are healthy and normal, dun worry about it so much! the age diff isn't THAT big either geeezuzz
4. Honestly, I find it strange because the age gap makes the gap in life experience quite large, but if he is above the age of consent and is also interested in you, who am I to judge? Just be cautious because you never know how his family or others will react.
5. there is going to be people that say it is wrong or gross. but those people arent even worth your time. it all seems complicated. but the answer is simple. you like him. he likes you. nothing is wrong with that, just ignore what those narrow minded people have to say. DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.
6. if its not illegal then go for it...but ultimately its the scrutiny in the long run that you have to decide if you want to endure. most people try and avoid those situations but if youre up to it then do it
7. I DON'T WHAT TO SAY :O But I think later on you two will have problems 'coz he's not that matured enough for you.
8. Lady I didn't get very far, I don't care whether you are right or wrong. It's illegal, so you will go to jail, I guess, but you're not alone. Just read Canada hell I don't know shouldn''t have come in here. By
9. You are headed down a one-way road towards a canyon.
10. Sketch!
11. think about this, when hes 22 you'll be 28. not that big a diff, and besides, you said you thought he was a lot older so people who dont know you on a personal level wont judge you, and those who do know are probably the ones close to you and care about you so where is the problem here?
12. age doesnt really matter to me beceause people are so different! like you could meet a 23 year old who is really immature, and you could meet a 17 yeard old like you have who is really mature. i think people usually think similar ages should date because they are in the same stage of their lives....and are likely to have the same maturity level kinda thing...this is so hard to explain haha so i hope you understand what im getting at :)
13. You said he has a fiancee. You said you have self-esteem issues. Why would he be taking steroids which are dangerous? Are you trying to be sexual no matter what the outcomes (s) ? If he has a fiancee and is going beyond flirting with you, what does that say for his loyalty issue? It sounds like you are going to ignore all the above... What if you get pregnant? You're only sixteen? He's immature if he's just trying to put "another notch on his belt" given the above. I hope this helps!
14. Lol, well I think you'll find that 16 being legal means for those under 21. He's a kid, leave it. Man, I feel sick :(
15. If it's legal, then go for it. If it's not legal, wait a couple years or so until it is. Actually, you two are not that far apart in age. Since women live an average of 8 years longer than men, it makes sense to date someone younger. If you wind up marrying this guy, by the time you reach your 30's, the age difference really won't matter. Plus, if he's already renting his own apartment and earning a living, he sounds pretty mature to me. Actually, I'm a little envious of you...good luck!